Husbands, Wives, Authority & Submission



“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Eph 5:22. There it is, that settles it, it’s in black and white, husbands have authority over wives, no argument… right?

I have heard this case put forward many times over the years, but is it what the Bible really says? Let’s have a look. Read more

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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? Part 9

Does she have to submit no matter what?


I don’t know about you but I have seen Christian women oppressed, humiliated, assaulted and dominated by their husbands. I have spoken in churches where the pastor’s wife could not sit at the front with her husband, I have spoken into cultures where the wife must walk behind her husband and all because the Bible says so… yeah right!

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:22

I think if we are honest, the above Scripture and the similar one in Colossians are generally interpreted as “wife, do as I say, when I say and how I say because God has given me authority over you”. This interpretation comes in varying extremes, but a large percentage of the Christian male population expect their wives to do as they say.

I have heard wives say “I am really trying to submit” when  their husbands are acting like total fools.

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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? Part 8

Joint heir or little helper?

“And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.

1 Timothy 2:12 NKJV

 “Woman, submit to the word of God and shut-up!”

“Woman, how dare you try to challenge my headship, you will submit to my authority.”

To this day in the western world, women are silenced, beaten and intimidated in the name of so called biblical authority. The tragedy is that women have suffered for generations in the name of a lie. This lie has appealed to the basest desires in men, and flourishes wherever men pursue religion over truth.

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What’s The Churches Problem With Women? – Part 7

Do we really want her to be silent?

“Let a woman learn in silence with all submission.” 1 Timothy 2:11 (NKJV) Surely this has to settle the woman question once and for all? Or is it an unbiblical man made interpretation of the truth? After all, one half of the Body of Christ is told to be quiet and listen, and if she doesn’t like it then she should just submit. Is that what God really wants?


Another  question

If women are to learn quietly and submissively, how should the men learn? Loudly and rebelliously? Is this command uniquely for the women whilst the men are free from such restraints, or was Paul once again addressing a local issue?


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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? – Part 6

“In this church there is no fashion, no smiles, no fun, no hairdo, no jewellery. We believe in godly women!”

Is she really a Jezebel?

Yeah, and don’t let her wear shoes and make sure she isn’t allowed out on her own. You can always tell a churched women, not sure of herself, conflicted, often dressed about fifty years behind the times and determined to please others.

But when you read Bible verses like this, is it in any wonder? “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array” 1 Timothy 2:9 (KJV)

Literally millions of women around the world live in fear, confusion, deprivation and suffer beatings; and what’s more, often the church supports and even enforces this desperately wicked situation. Why? Because the Bible says so?

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What’s The Churches Problem With Women? – Part 5

Does she really have to submit and be silent?

“The woman has to submit to the authority of the man because the man was made first. Not only is this the order of creation in Genesis, but the Apostle Paul spells it out for us in black and white. This is what the Bible says so it must be true.”

 If that is the case then God really does view women as second class human beings.

 The law of firsts

Some argue that because Adam was made first he is in charge, but to my mind there are a few issues here that we must resolve. Firstly the woman was already in the man when he was created, and secondly both the man and the woman were called Adam. The woman wasn’t named Eve until after they were both banished from the garden; perhaps that was the first degree of separation that God spoke of in the curse, as they now began to fight for control?

Another thought here is that the first ever evangelists (the first people Jesus chose to proclaim His resurrection) were women (Matthew 28:10). If this idea of firsts is watertight we should accept that all female evangelists have authority over men. I find it interesting that Jesus Himself allows a women to preach to the apostles but that the church doesn’t like women to speak. What was Jesus thinking?

Then if I wanted to be really awkward, I could say dogs were made before men, therefore…

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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? – Part 4

Should she marry her rapist?

Picture the scene, the jury declares the man guilty of rape, the judge tells the perpetrator  to stand as he prepares to pass sentence. Can you imagine the shock when the sentence passed is for the rapist to marry his victim? What is going on? If God is so good, how come the man is left unpunished and the woman has to marry the person who violated her? What is that all about?

God and the rights of women.

In Deuteronomy 22:25-27 rape carries the death sentence for the perpetrator, which actually shows us how God really feels about it, but then, in the next few verses we read that the rapist is told to marry his victim providing she is not engaged to be married. For a 21st century Western mind the whole idea, quite rightly in my opinion, is totally and utterly abhorrent; I mean, why does the creep get to live just because the girl was single? The key here is, as in any reading of the Bible, to get into the mind of the people the book was originally for. Believe it or not, Yahweh really did have the welfare of women at heart. His justice reflected the needs of the victim and not the rights of guilty.

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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? – Part 3

Do men really have the rule over women?

Entire denominations and countless local churches oppress and demean women. In too many christian households wives and daughters are made to feel second best because of poor and lazy understandings of Scripture. It is time for the truth to come out!

Let’s start by making sense of a much misunderstood verse in Genesis, the very first book in the Bible. In Genesis 3:16 we see Yahweh pronouncing the curse on the woman that was the result of the first act of disobedience. In this curse we read”Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you”.

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What’s The Church’s Problem With Women? – Part 2

Do you really think that she is inferior?

It is staggering how over the centuries Christians have managed to promote so-called doctrine that flies in the face of both Jesus and the Scripture. There is no better, or worse, example of this than the churches diabolical treatment of women. To this day women have been ignored, abused, belittled and demeaned, all in the name of so-called biblical teaching.

What Does The Bible Say About Women?

The Bible gives woman equality, its texts stand up for them and Jesus was not ashamed to be seen with and minister to the women he met.

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What’s Our Problem With Women? – Prt 1

I am still amazed that so much of the Church is still biased against women as though they were in some way a lesser species than men. The truly awful thing is that both men and women take the Bible and claim that male superiority is ‘written’; in view of this, let’s have a quick look at some of the things the Bible says about women. Just before we dig in, let’s consider the following, in certain Muslim communities if a women is raped she can be found guilty of a kind of second degree adultery, she is imprisoned while the man goes free. Of course our ‘civilised’ western minds are appalled at the thought of such injustice; but I would say that the monstrous seeds of such evil can be found even among us. I know of church leaders who would say that a wife who is beaten by her husband has to take at least some responsibility for his actions, there is one high profile pastor who blamed another pastor’s wife for her husbands descent in homosexuality. WHAT! You are joking aren’t you? Not that there is anything to laugh at here. There is NO justification in any circumstances for beating your wife and the husband is responsible for the husband’s actions; we can’t say “the women you gave me…”

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